Kalopsia

You know, the grass isn't always greener on the other side...and if it is, it might just be turf.

Often, we find ourselves in the midst of jealousy. We see what others have and wonder why we don't have it...why do they deserve it? But, have you ever wondered how many people look at you and envy your life?


Why envy when you can be happy? You should not only be content, but also thankful that you live the life that you live. You don't have the money for something you want at the moment? Okay, well there are people living under the Brooklyn bridge praying to God that they'll survive another night. You're not as skinny as that girl in your Physics class? Well, she secretly suffers bulimia along with several thousand women in the US. You didn't test as well as that guy in your English class? Well at least you have the opportunity to attend a school unlike several millions of people throughout the world.

The world outside of your window might seem glorious, but it may not be as great as you think. Use what you have and flourish with it. Envy of another's life doesn't hurt them, it only burdens your heart with jealousy and sets you back from earning what they have earned or even better.

The delusion that your life is in need of anything other than God (or whatever you believe in), family, and REAL friends is what's setting you back from the happiness that could enhance your life to a whole new level. Sit back and think of all you have. What "minute" belongings you have now may be gone within a blink of an eye, so cherish it. Love it. Love your life and be happy that you're no one else other than yourself.

No one lives a perfect life, no matter how much you may envy them. And shoot, if you can't beat them, then join them! But you can't join through sitting on your butt complaining and envying what other's have...you join through working hard to get what you want.

 Work...earn...indulge. Create your own beautiful life to live rather than sitting on the other side of the fence envying the delusion of your neighbor's perfect life,




Tiana

 

Baggage

Baggage is one of those major things that can ruin a potentially beneficial and happy relationship.

I think it's fair to say that, by now, we all have had our hearts torn apart at one point.  If you haven't, then God bless you because you dodged some serious bullets. But, for those of us that have, we sometimes have a habit of holding on to the pain. Why? Who in the world wants to feel that pain over and over again? Who wants to relive that part of their life that seemed more like an obituary to our love life than a new chapter? I can't answer for everyone, but if you're anything like me, you hold on to the pain as a reminder of when you feel it's time to run away.

I've mastered the art of running away. When feelings get to deep, I tend to get scared...even mad. "Who the hell is he, making me smile all hard like this? Why is he being so nice?" ...Well sweetheart, he may just be a great guy that sees everything the last didn't. "But what if he leaves too? What if he cheats too? What if I go another 2 months in a depression because I'll feel like nobody sees potential in me?" ...Shut up. All that complaining and fear is doing nothing but drawing you back from finding what God really has in store for you. Do you know how many guys I thought I was going to be with forever? Three. Three guys. I'm only 19. What possessed me to believe that they were the ones? Idiocy.

I am still young. This is the part of my life where, although I am now required to begin finding independent solutions to my problems, I still have my parents to help clean up my mistakes. I am still young. This is the part of my life where I am beginning to find who I am. I am still young. This is the part of my life where I discover that not every "I love you" is real.

So, as I think about my past relationships and how they effected me, I should thank my ex's rather than detest them. Like the beautiful Christina Aguilera once said "After all that you put me through, you think I'd despise you. But in the end, I want to thank you because you've made me that much stronger."

Christina sees the big picture and so should we. Don't bring baggage into your relationship with Billy because of how things went down with Bob. Billy didn't do anything wrong to you! It's easier said than done when your hearts taken more jabs than a punching bag...but it's a learning process. I'm in a new relationship and I often find myself getting secretly frustrated with my boyfriend because of petty things. "He didn't answer my phone call, oh, well that means he's off cheating just like my ex. He's acting distant? Well that means that he's preparing to abandon me just like whats-his-face." ...Wrong. So incredibly wrong. Why am I treating him as if he was the one that broke my heart 2 years ago? I didn't even know him 2 years ago!

Feelings can suck. Emotions can hurt. Memories can sting. Relationships don't always last, but baggage is a heavy and gross load that not only burdens you, but also your partner. Don't bring baggage into your next relationship because you may end up filling your partner with resentment towards you that could lead to their potential (yes, you've guessed it!)...baggage! It's an abhorrent series of events that you could end with just your love and forgiveness.

Learn from your past. Be easygoing but not stupid. Don't put up with crap. Put your foot down. Demand what you believe you deserve. BUT DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT make someone suffer for another person's actions. Love wisely. Be happy. Live freely. And if your new relationship with Billy doesn't work out, it's not Bob's fault and certainly don't let it roll over to your relationship with Ben.

Sit back, think, breathe, love, and forgive,

Tiana

Lets Get Lost Together!

Hey everyone,

So, I'm a little new to this blogging thing...but I'm beyond excited to begin my journey as a blogger. I'm currently a sophomore at Norfolk State University majoring in Journalism. I've lollygagged about what in the world that I am going to do with this major...I mean, there are so many freaking options...but that's the beauty of journalism. Journalism is limitless...and so are my thoughts. 

So, as a journalism major, why shouldn't I begin experimenting with the blog world while my thoughts are just as scattered as my peers'? The purpose of my page is to extend my knowledge, thoughts,  friendship, and lessons with fellow college students. Lets be honest, we're all a little lost during these years as we try to figure what we're going to do with ourselves for the rest of our lives...why be lost alone?

I hope you all take this journey with me and enjoy,
Tiana